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“Fifty Shades of They”
By Ed Young
January 11, 2015
From casual acquaintances to our closest friends, the people in our lives affect where we go and impact who we become. But great relationships don’t just happen. To get the most out of them, we must be intentional.
In this message, Ed Young shows us God’s truth about selecting our friends. We discover the kind of friend we should look for and the kind of friend we should be. Because when it comes down to it, our lives are a reflection of who we surround ourselves with, who we choose.
Good morning! I want to welcome all of our campuses at the different environments. How are you guys doing? I want to have a word of prayer before we begin this exciting series. Father, you brought everyone here for a reason. And I pray now that you would use my vocal cords, my background, my personality to communicate your message to every person here. Really, God, I don’t have anything to say but you have it all to say. I give my life to you. Use me. In Christ’s name. Amen.
I have a question for you. What did they influence you to do that you would not have done if they hadn’t been around? What did they, that’s right, influence you to do that you would not have done if they hadn’t been around. I’m talking about the sway of the they in your life and in mine. Because all the time we say, “They said… they feel… they have been coming to me…” And now and then we’ll say, who are they? The other day someone said,
“Ed, you’re using the word they. Who are they?”
I said, “They. Them.”
Fifty Shades of They
January 18, 2015
God wants all of us to get the most out of every relationship we have. That doesn’t just happen, though. It takes an active pursuit to surround ourselves with the right THEY. We must also discover who the wrong THEY are.
In this message by Pastor Ed Young, we discover God’s strong words about those closest to us. We learn how our most intimate relationships must sync up with our highest priorities. Because when it comes to experiencing the fullness of life, we cannot go through life mismatched.
How’s everyone today? I’m doing well, too. I could tell you wanted to say, “How are you, Ed?” I’m doing great! Fellowship Church, one church in many different locations.
ILLUS: You probably have noticed I’m mismatched. Have you noticed that? On my left foot I’ve got one of my favorite shoes on. In fact, my wife bought these shoes for me this Christmas. I love these shoes.
On my right I have a flip-flop that (I counted it) is 18 years old. Eighteen years! I’ve come close, dangerously close, to throwing it away. But I’m not going to do it because it’s comfortable. But obviously I’m mismatched.
Could it be that someone here is mismatched? Could it be that someone here is hooked up, connected, with the wrong “they”? The wrong person in your life? Maybe you’re with the wrong squad, the wrong clique, the wrong team, the wrong fraternity, the wrong sorority, the wrong business. Could it be that you’re mismatched?
I’m very excited about this series, we opened it last week. It’s called “Fifty Shades of They.” Here’s the great thing about God. God’s not grey, is he? Especially when it comes to relationships. We’re all about relationships. We have a hole in our heart shaped like a cross and it can only be filled with Jesus. Then we have this yearning and this burning to be with other people. We’ve got friends, we’ve got comrades, we’ve got peers, we’ve got teammates, office mates, classmates, and so on.
“God’s Way, God’s They”
January 25, 2015
The pursuit of the right THEY is all about taking action. We need to find the right people to do life with, and we need to find the wrong people so we know who to avoid.
In this message, Pastor Ed Young takes a close look at a very poignant biblical character; one we can all learn from. And through this character’s life and example, we discover that the greatest way to do life is God’s way, with God’s THEY!
ILLUS: This past week I traveled to attend a conference. And this conference was a pretty massive conference. About 7,000 people were there. One of the nights there was a party at someone’s home who was hosting the conference. Well, I got invited to this party. Just a few people were invited so I felt sort of privileged that I was invited to this party, so I drove up to this house, through the gates, and went through the protocol. I was there and met some people that I knew and also some people that I didn’t know at this party. I was invited to the party. Most of the people who attended the conference were not invited. I mean, I just happened to know the right people who had this party, that’s why I was invited. But obviously most of the 7,000 were not invited.
Question: Who do you need to invite into your life? Question: Who do you need to invite out of your life? Could it be that you’re hanging out with the wrong ‘they?’ You know who they are, don’t you? Yeah. “They said… they feel… they’ve been coming to me…” They? Who are they? Them. Them? Those. Those? Oh, they’re just a few. But those few have some serious horsepower in our lives, don’t they? The ‘they.’ Who are the ‘they?’ Because the ‘they’ always have something to say. And I believe that the wrong ‘they’ stay in the way of the right ‘they’ in so many of our lives. Who are ‘they?’
“Well ‘they,’” I guess you’re thinking, “are my friends.” That’s right. I have to say after writing this book, Fifty Shades of They – and remember God is not grey when it comes to relationships. After studying friendships for a long, long time, I’ve got to say friendships are the biggest force in our lives, relationally speaking, next to our family. And for many here you leave your family to move to your real family that you’ve chosen, which happen to be, and you are, your friends. It’s a Forceful Relationship Involved in Everyone’s Domain. It spells FRIEND.
February 1, 2015
We are all relational beings; God has created us to live in relationship with other people. Yet, too many people miss out of the potential of their relational reality.
In this message, Pastor Ed Young shows us how relational dye that we cut early in life often determines the direction our lives take later in life. And he challenges us to constantly invite people into our lives (the right THEY) and to invite people out of our lives (the wrong THEY) – even from an early age.
It’s great to see everyone here today. You know, today I’m very, very proud of this book. Fifty Shades of They drops right here at Fellowship and in several days it drops at Amazon.com.
Now, someone asked me the other day, they said, “Ed, you’ve written a lot of books. How many books have you written?” I said,
“I don't know, 14 or 15.” And then they asked the proverbial,
“How long does it take for you to write a book?” That’s a great question. And, “How do you write a book?” So I answered that, but as I answered the question for “Fifty Shades of They” how long it took me to write this book, here was my answer – “53 years.” That’s how old I am. It took me 53 years to write this book.
I’m very proud of this book and I believe this book is a life changer. Why can I say that? Because basically it’s from Scripture, it’s comments, situations, stories that move from Scripture about relationships. Because the ‘they’ in your life and mine have serious sway. The ‘they.’
“Fantasy vs. Reality”
February 8, 2015
There’s a cultural epidemic that is wrapped up in complete fantasy. It is a distortion of a more powerful reality about relationships. And it is pulling us away from God’s purposes.
In this message, Pastor Ed Young confronts the popular novel and upcoming movie “Fifty Shades of Grey.” Through a unique approach, he wakes us up to the reality that God’s purpose and plan for our lives is so much greater than anything fantasy has to offer.
ILLUS: Several days ago I was in a meeting with a young lady who helps me with some of my books. And she challenged me to read “Fifty Shades of Grey.” I said,
“You know, I feel uncomfortable about reading the book because basically it’s pornography.” She said,
“Well, just read it because if the media calls or someone else asks a question or whatever you need to be able to explain the story line and you need to know what happened.” So I set out to read this 514-page book.
I skipped over the erotic parts and I read the entire book in 45 minutes. I did.
It’s easy to explain the story line. The main character is a gentleman named Christian Grey, a 27-year-old billionaire. For a book that women really like it has to start out with a ruggedly handsome, 27-year-old billionaire. Christian Grey, though, has some serious issues. He was abused. He basically is a sexual predator. He finds a 21-year-old college student, Anastasia Steele. She’s a virgin. They connect and it glorifies sadomasochism, bondage, and the whole dominant and submission perversion. Basically it normalizes perversion. It’s a book that uses metaphors and clichés and eroticism and art to camouflage what it is – domestic violence.
“What did they influence you to do that you would not have done if they hadn’t been around?”
We all have people in our lives who influence us to make decisions and take actions. How our lives go is determined largely by those people we surround ourselves with.
We can either be surrounded by the right “they,” or we can find ourselves doing life with the wrong “they”. The big question everyone must ask at some point is, “Who are they?”. In this series by Pastor Ed Young, we discover how the right they in our lives can help us experience the most out of this life God has given us.